It can feel challenging to look closely at yourself, your relationships and your wider life, even a little frightening; however, I can support you in finding a healthier balance in your life. Ultimately, therapy can help you to become who you truly are, your real authentic self, the person you were born to be.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
“I am not in this world to live up to other people's expectations, nor do I feel that the world must live up to mine.” ~ Fritz Perls
As a transpersonal psychotherapist and counsellor I am also trained to work with issues around spiritual experiences and integration. I am particularly interested in working with dreams, active imagination and mindfulness.
Therapy can be about making a decision or even about taking a completely new direction in life. I feel that therapy is about finding out and expressing who you really are. Psychological symptoms are not simply problems to get rid of, but indicate that change needs to happen or that something needs to develop within your personality.
"Beauty is the depth of the soul; its expression in whatever form is the sign of the soul's unfoldment, when an individual becomes a person, the beauty hidden in the individual, which is divine, develops; and that development of beauty is personality."
~ Hazrat Inayat Khan.
I started my working life as a laboratory technician at Swansea University. I quite enjoyed the work although in many ways I wasn't satisfied with my life. My problem was I felt unable to do anything about it and felt increasingly overwhelmed by anxiety, depression and a lack of confidence. Eventually my life took a serious, damaging and very sad turn for the worse.
I entered psychotherapy and developed a meditation practice. Both these things have transformed my life in many ways. I changed from being a person frightened to leave the house who couldn't even catch a train, into someone who has traveled across Tibet and spent time at a Zen monastery in Korea.
After many years is therapy I decided to train as a psychotherapist myself, and I completed the UKCP accredited Diploma in Transpersonal Counselling and Psychotherapy at the Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE).
I practice Tibetan Buddhism and have integrated that into my own personal path. I have experience of a wide range of meditation and mindfulness techniques. I find spending time in nature very healing and balancing. Looking at flowers or noticing the beauty of the night sky helps me to feel more human and keeps me in touch with my soul. I love to meditate in the woods or by the sea shore.
My own experience of psychotherapy as a client helps me to be a therapist for others. It has also given me a real faith in my clients when they may not have that faith in themselves. I've been there myself. I love helping my clients discover and make real the potential they have in themselves.
Empathy and trust is central to the way I work. It's important to be present with a client, with a wholeheartedness that puts theoretical considerations in the background.
We all have a source of wisdom inside us
A part of us that knows what we really need and knows how we can heal and grow. My role involves helping you to discover and have trust in your own inner wisdom.
Inside each of us are all the qualities, abilities and characteristics that we need to overcome the challenges that life brings. Therapy can help to unblock and unfold those qualities, finding balance and harmony in place of conflict.
Negative personality traits may simply be blocked and distorted qualities that are potentially very useful.
Trauma and neglect
Counselling may focus on a particular issue, psychotherapy goes deeper and involves looking at the development of the whole personality.
Understanding how my clients have developed through childhood and adolescence can provide much insight into what might have been blocked or distorted in a persons development and therefore what a client may need to develop or let go of in their life now.
I have often found that coping strategies, that were developed in childhood in response to traumatic events or neglect, get carried over into adulthood stifling further development of the personality.
This can result in a type of stuckness and a tendency to repeat the problems of the past.
The growth and development of the personality is a natural process, we all have the innate potential to live a satisfying life. My role is to help my clients recognise and overcome the blocks to their natural growth. When the blocks are removed, healthy development resumes naturally.
I make use of theory and different techniques from a spectrum of different approaches; however, the decisive factor in the therapy is the confidential relationship between me and my client. I create a non-judgemental space where the client can develop the trust they need to be themselves.
My work integrates psychodynamic, existential, humanistic, mindfulness based CBT and transpersonal modes of psychotherapy. I am particularly interested in the use of mindfulness, working with dreams and using active imagination. I find it helpful to work with mindfulness of bodily experience and may also use art, creative imagination and visualisation.
I draw on the work of Carl G. Jung, Janina Fisher, Hazrat Inayat Khan, Sigmund Freud, Melanie Klein, Harry Guntrip, Carl Rogers, Fritz Perls, Rollo May, Anthony Lunt and many others.
I am professionally insured and follow the UKCP code of ethics.
Psychotherapy can be effective in both the short term, medium, and long term (6 months up to 3+ years). The length of the therapy will depend on what you wish to resolve and develop in your life.
Sessions are once a week, for 50 minutes. The fee is £45 per session.